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Well. Well. Well.

My dad passed away Thursday, January 13, 2011 @ 5:00p. He was pronounced @ 6:36p. He was 84.

Gonna miss him. I thought it would be just a normal day on the day he died. I believed that I would not be affected after taking care of him for 14 years. I thought I was ready for the announcement. Me, my brothers, and some of the grand kids had gone up to the Grand Rapids Veterans Home to see him on Tuesday after the call from Hospice came through telling us he had hours to days before the end came. So I knew that the end was near, yet when they called me and told me, I burst into tears. Huh.

I realized that I wasn't crying for him. I was crying for myself. Everyone I had taken care of was now gone. My mom in 2001 and now dad in 2011. I felt alone. Adrift. Knocked off my square. Left hanging on a precipice with my shirttail blowing in the winds of grief.

He's going to be cremated and put in the urn with mom. When I go I will be placed there as well. My brother and I took the time to reiterate our burial instructions. Mind stayed the same. When Jesus returns we will all be together, I thought. My brother wanted to be with us but his new wife nixed that idea. Her family has a plot for all of them and she wants him buried next to her. Still, even though he won't be joining me, the urn is big enough for others in the family should they wish. Is that morbid and gross?

Back to dad. The last time I saw him I was enthralled by the realization of how handsome he was. His skin was smooth. The nursing staff had given him a shave and a haircut. Still a lady-killer in the looks department.

He was sleeping because they were giving him morphine every hour for pain. He could no longer speak or swallow. His kidneys had failed, he was experiencing chest and abdominal pain. He didn't know me or anyone else there. My brother played the scriptures for him and that seemed to calm him, although I'm not sure that he could hear or understand it.

I kissed him on the cheek and ran my fingers through his soft white hair as I murmured my goodbyes and left. I didn't know I wouldn't see him again....Maybe, I did know that.

Before I left, we, the family, stood in a circle holding his hands to complete the circle and prayed that he would not suffer long. That was the reason we did not go with the feeding tube suggestion, after all. God answered that prayer quickly.

Its way too cold for a memorial service right now and those who would come are the children and grandchildren, and *our* friends. Most of dad's acquaintances are dead or in the same mental and physical state he just left. I was thinking that when the thaw comes in the Spring we could have a family type get-together, slash, celebration of dad's legacy, the end of an era, slash, bar-b-que, slash, potluck. We will get all the family around and do what we do best, play and laugh--laugh 'til we cry.

We will argue at our selves, and each other. Tell stories about the two Aces that are out of play, mom and dad. Marvel at the next generation of Jokers, running wild around our feet, argue the fact of who has been dealt most of life's straight flushes (we have some certified geniuses walking around doing nothing with their talents). And debating who has the best poker face when playing Scrabble.

I like that idea. I think mom and dad would like it too. Especially, if we keep laughing.

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Sir Isaac Newton was the author of the quotation above. He was astute in his observation. I tried to tell myself not to be so excited, not to want to see Joe so badly because it would not be to my advantage. Well Ike, life's karma has struck again.

I went to my friend's home and was ready to see Joe do his stuff. 2.5 Men ended and *blank*. The station retained the logo of 2.5 Men and for the next 2 hours that is all it showed. Disappointment thy name is Karen.

I didn't cry. I didn't cuss. I didn't throw my popcorn. I just accepted that the world was once again raining on my rained out parade. C'est la vie. Someday I'll get a chance to see this TV movie, Change of Plans, and I will enjoy it. But right now, LIFE SUCKS COW PATTIES!
I want to finish all my sentences with exclamation points! I am so excited! How I wish I had a recording device to keep this movie forever. I don't even have a TV but a neighbor has said I can watch his TV tonight. There will be popcorn TONIGHT! I wish I could show the trailer here but I couldn't figure it out or if its even possible. So below is what I could retrieve for your 411.

Change of Plans
"Change Of Plans" - 8/7c (8:00-10:00 PM ET/PT)
FOX MOVIE SPECIAL PREMIERE
SOMETIMES LIFE GIVES YOU MORE THAN YOU BARGAINED FOR IN THE ALL-NEW, MADE-FOR-TV FAMILY MOVIE “CHANGE OF PLANS” SATURDAY, JANUARY 8, ON FOX

AMERICAN IDOL Season Eight Finalist Brooke White Makes Her Acting Debut / IDOL Judge Randy Jackson and NASCAR Driver Jeff Burton Guest-Star


Up to this point, Sally Danville’s (White) life has played out just as she hoped it would. A beautiful and free-spirited musician, she and her figher-pilot husband, Jason (Joe Flanigan, “Stargate: Atlantis”), live life on the go, free of domestic responsibilities. But with a single phone call from social worker Dorothy (Phylicia Rashad, “The Cosby Show”), Sally learns that things don’t always go according to plan. Sally is met with the news that her best friend from college has died in a tragic accident while serving in the Peace Corps and she has been named the legal guardian of her friend’s four children – three of whom were adopted from third-world countries. Now Sally and Jason must quickly learn to parent this instant family and help the kids deal with culture clashes and life in America. Find out how fulfilling life can be when you look beyond yourself and invest in the lives of others.

I Can't Say That I'm Sorry!

SyFy cancelled Stargate Universe. My first reaction to the news was, "Yesssssss!" I found the show confusing and depressing so whatever the plan or premise for the show was, for me, it failed.

I am very sorry for the actors and production crews who found this out a week before Christmas. No one wants to be unemployed and especially at Christmas or before the New Year. This is just an example of the brains and hearts of the execs who handle the programming for TV.

To those of you who loved the show, my sympathy. I know how it feels to have a favorite show go "blink".

I may be bias though, I hated it from the start. Okay, I'm very bias. I was so disappointed that SGA was cancelled. There was no reason to do that. The 'proof was in the pudding' so to speak. The show was nominated for many awards and had won the People's Choice Award; it had gotten decent ratings; everyone I knew had heard about it or was talking about the show and wondering how the characters and plot lines were going to play out. One of the sure signs that a show is doing great is when people tell you how much they hate the nemesis of a show. EVERYBODY, I knew who watched SGA, hated Kolya! Todd was a little more inconclusive. We wanted to hate him but we loved him too because he saved John.

We talked about who was dating whom and if they would really allow a gay pairing (Stackhouse and Markham)on the show? Sales were up, interest was high. I couldn't wait for the writer's strike to end so that I could get back to the business of Stargating in Atlantis. And why have a strike if the shows on TV are lousy? Who would care? In my part of Earthside "Atlantis" everyone was in an uproar because of the stupid strike and the inability to watch SGA.

So now that the favorite new 'toy' of the creators and producers has been proven damaged and unacceptable they have taken it off line. I just hope that before they close the 'toy factory' that they will keep their promise and still have the Atlantis movie come out on DVD. I miss my friends and their adventures; like I said, I know what its like.

I also hope TPTB see that with the economy and the threat of disasters all around us that we don't need more 'dark and edgy' shows. We need fun, adventure, and the display of the fight for truth and peace with characters who can laugh at themselves so that we can laugh with them about ourselves and get through the next day or even the next hour. Is it too late or too much to ask that they bring back the light? I truly hope they will listen and learn.

So goodbye SGU! I do not lament your passing. I hope that your early demise will open up the way for another kind of sci-fi show; a 'kinder gentler' show that will be different. There's nothing wrong with different, but one that will also bring hope back to the inhabitants of Earth. There is nothing wrong with hope either especially when accompanied with some good whumping, handsome actors, bad-ass weapons, cool special effect, well written plots, exotic AI spaceships THAT COULD BE EXPLORED, well written lines given by said handsome actors who can deliver lines with believability, etc, etc, etc.

To stargate lovers everywhere: Many, merry, happy, holiday, Holies to us, everyone!

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~a fun thing taken from the site of elderwitty. Thanks elderwitty!

http://elderwitty.livejournal.com/12761.html

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I love Christmas! Not for the gifts or the food but for the 'good feelings' that ooze out of everything when this season comes around. I love the music and the decorations too. I like driving around and seeing how everyone has decorated their land. This year I am on the hunt for Christmas stories that feature the Stargate family. SG-1 and SGA. I found a delightful one over at the fanfiction.net site. Here's the link:

http://www.fanfiction.net/s/3303735/1/How_the_Grinch_Saved_Christmas

This story is funny and full of the fluff of Christmas! Many of you have already read it. It was written by TechnoScribe back in 2006. If you haven't read it, do so. I think you will enjoy it.

I really, really enjoyed the holiday hurt/comfort comment fic challenge that was going like wild fire over at sheppard_hc. So many good stories written fast and furiously. A few of these were Christmas themed. Give those a look-see as well. Well off I go with the Christmas hounds to the hunt....

Be Safe, not sorry!

PLEASE READ AND BE SAFE. 
Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or love one's life
Crucial
Because of recent abductions
In daylight hours, refresh yourself
of these things to do
in an emergency situation..
This is for you,
and for you to share
with your wife,
your children,
everyone you know.
After reading these 9 crucial tips,
forward them to someone you care about.
It never hurts to be careful
in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do :
The elbow is the strongest point
on your body.
If you are close enough to use it, do!
2.. Learned this from a tourist guide.
If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM.
Toss it away from you....
Chances are that he is more interested
in your wallet and/or purse than you,
and he will go for the wallet/purse.
RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car,
kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole
and start waving like crazy..
The driver won't see you, but everybody else will.
This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars
after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit
(doing their chequebook, or making a list, etc.
DON'T DO THIS!)
The predator will be watching you, and this
is the perfect opportunity for him to get in
on the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go..
AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR ,
LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE..

If someone
is in the car
with a gun
to your head
DO NOT DRIVE OFF,
Repeat:
DO NOT DRIVE OFF!
Instead gun the engine
and speed into anything, wrecking the car.
Your Air Bag will save you.
If the person is in the back seat
they will get the worst of it .
As soon as the car crashes
bail out and run.
It is better than having them find your body
in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting
into your car in a parking lot,
or parking garage:
A.) Be aware:
look around you,
look into your car,
at the passenger side floor ,
and in the back seat
B.) If you are parked next to a big van,
enter your car from the passenger door.
Most serial killers attack their victims
by pulling them into their vans while the women
are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car
parked on the driver's side of your vehicle,
and the passenger side... If a male is sitting alone
in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back
into the mall, or work, and get a
guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator
instead of the stairs.
Stairwells are horrible places to be alone
and the perfect crime spot.
This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun
and you are not under his control,
ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target)
4 in 100 times; and even then,
it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.
RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying
to be sympathetic:
STOP
It may get you raped, or killed.
Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well educated man, who ALWAYS played
on the sympathies of unsuspecting women.
He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often
asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle,
which is when he abducted
his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point:
Someone just told me that her friend heard
a crying baby on her porch the night before last,
and she called the police because it was late
and she thought it was weird.. The police told her
'Whatever you do, DO NOT
open the door..'
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby
had crawled near a window, and she was worried
that it would crawl to the street and get run over.
The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
He told her that they think a serial killer
has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax
women out of their homes thinking that someone
dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it,
but have had several calls by women saying that
they hear baby's cries outside their doors
when they're home alone at night.
 
10. Water scam!
If you wake up in the middle
of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a
burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your
outside taps full ball so that you will go out to investigate and
then attack.

Stay alert, keep safe, and look out for your neighbours!
Please pass this on
This e-mail should probably be taken seriously because
the Crying Baby Theory was mentioned on
America 's Most Wanted when they profiled
the serial killer in Louisiana

I'd like you
to forward this to all the women you know.
It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle..
I was going to send this to the ladies only,
but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc.,
you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need
to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it
and it's better to be safe than sorry..
Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or love one's life


What kind of Book are you?

Found this at azure_horizon's page.  Thanks azure_horizon!

You Are Realistic Fiction
You are an outgoing person and very interested in others. You have many relationships that are important to you.
You are always willing to lend an ear to a friend with a problem. And you're even pretty good at giving advice!

Some may accuse you of loving drama, but you just seem to find yourself in the middle of it.
You are a true people person. You find the lives of others to be fascinating. You're up for hearing anyone's life story.


To All the Friends I've Loved Before

Hi everyone!

My computer went the way of all bad things and now I'm back for a while. What's been happening? What have you been doing for the summer? I've been missing all of you and wondering how you were.

I have been hanging out with my 12 yr old niece. She's a hoot! Oh, to be young again.

Got to run now and fry up one of the giant squash that have been given to me. Happy weekend all!

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Thoughts on Mr. Flanigan

I admire Joe Flanigan very much and as I have watched him I often see how he could play the same kind of roles that Mr. James Stewart made memorable. Mr. Flanigan was great in "Farewell to Harry".

I watched "Mr. Smith Goes to Washington" directed by Frank Capra, this week. Love that movie, and I found myself putting Mr. Flanigan in the place of Mr. Stewart. In "Farewell to Harry" I found myself putting Mr. Stewart in that role and he fit just fine too.

I would really like to see him take on some remakes of old films. Maybe because Mr. Stewart tended to play the reluctant hero so well and Mr. Flanigan does it with the same aplomb. 

As I think about it, Mr. Flanigan could do some of the old Cary Grant movies as well. He has the ability to reach that suave, nonchalant tone. I hope someone realizes this 'goldmine' and offers him a vehicle to display his many talents.

I also watched "The Other Sister" and I am always delighted at the goofiness that Joe was willing to display in that. Somebody needs to keep this guy working; it will benefit all of us.